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May 4Liked by James F. Richardson

Weak ties- all explained in the book “the WEIRDest People in the World” . WEIRD is an acronym for Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, Democratic. Fascinating look at how they were such innovators (because of weak family/kin/clan tie)

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my next book is a good compliment to Henrich's work by exposing the downsides of living this way...the upside is easy to see

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May 4Liked by James F. Richardson

Wow. Spot on! You’d broke it down so thoughtfully and accurately. Thank you!

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Thanks for reading this!

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It may be interesting to look at the difference between urban and rural America and their loneliness, family ties and acceptance of strangers. I’ve lived in the same small town for over 25 and still am not considered “from here” by those born and raised here.

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May 5Liked by James F. Richardson

Rule 4. “You complete me.” Hogwash of the highest order.

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Even that phrase is totally self-absorbed…now that I think about it ..

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I get these sort of pitches monthly and they’re so annoying. And I have only been on a dating site once in my entire life, and that was for three weeks in 2019.

Sometimes I fuck with them by telling them that my real name is Satchel Paige or Frederick Douglas. Or that I have a chronic addiction problem or that the only money I have is some esoteric form of cryptocurrency that’s not convertible to cash. Now I just block them the first time I sense a rat. 🐀

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May 6Liked by James F. Richardson

There’s a business maxim around hiring new employees that probably could be used as well - “Slow to hire, quick to fire.”

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I get these myself, but I don't use any dating apps...they show up on Facebook, professing endless love...and then they ask for money. I lead them on to see how long it will take before they beg for money. Then I block them. I get a LOT of such messages from women with Asian names and photos, urging me to invest in Crypto. Or Bitcoin. Or spot gold. Or FOREX, whatever that is. Same response.

If, God forbid, I'm ever single, I'm going to require a potential girlfriend to answer one or both of two questions before we date:

1. Two earth-shattering events took place on August 4, 1914. One of them, everyone knows. One of them, nobody knows. Name them.

2. In the history of Major League Baseball, 24 different men have pitched Perfect Games. Yet only one man was behind the plate for TWO Perfect Games. Name that catcher.

There are only two possible answers:

1. The correct answer

2. Some version of "I don't know, but I'd love to discuss it with you over dinner."

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