It is rather counter-intuitive for women to want their romantic partners to be more masculine and men in society as a whole to be less so. But it's mostly where we are at now .
A lot of this resonates, James. See my post on fathers in pop culture. They are typically either alphas or clowns. And even the supposedly more progressive ones (such as Henry McCord in "Madam Secretary" or Hal Wyler in "The Diplomat) are actually still alphas. Henry is a world-class religion professor and a Marine pilot. Hal is still a major power broker by way of his network. I think it's possible to be confident without being an asshole, but the major point of confusion is about actual power: financial or professional. When a couple flips those conventions, it is not at all simple.
What a great piece James. I turned 50 this year. I was an alpha male from the start, and was married by 22.
I entered the corporate workplace at Morgan Stanley in 2001.
I left corporate in 2007 and never looked back.
However, I can only imagine how much things started changing in the 2010s.
I had a lot of laughs from this piece! I think I laughed the hardest when you described finally becoming an alpha male but then the workplace culture changed quickly to accommodate the new gender dynamics.
It is rather counter-intuitive for women to want their romantic partners to be more masculine and men in society as a whole to be less so. But it's mostly where we are at now .
The society is in a transitional phase of confusion…
With all my dislike for Jordan Peterson, when he said we don't have an etiquette ready for mixed-sex workplaces, I thought he had a point.
I mean, I can navigate those fine. But I'm both neurotypical and avoidant
A lot of this resonates, James. See my post on fathers in pop culture. They are typically either alphas or clowns. And even the supposedly more progressive ones (such as Henry McCord in "Madam Secretary" or Hal Wyler in "The Diplomat) are actually still alphas. Henry is a world-class religion professor and a Marine pilot. Hal is still a major power broker by way of his network. I think it's possible to be confident without being an asshole, but the major point of confusion is about actual power: financial or professional. When a couple flips those conventions, it is not at all simple.
https://joshuadolezal.substack.com/p/the-alpha-dad-and-the-clown
I’ll check it out…
What a great piece James. I turned 50 this year. I was an alpha male from the start, and was married by 22.
I entered the corporate workplace at Morgan Stanley in 2001.
I left corporate in 2007 and never looked back.
However, I can only imagine how much things started changing in the 2010s.
I had a lot of laughs from this piece! I think I laughed the hardest when you described finally becoming an alpha male but then the workplace culture changed quickly to accommodate the new gender dynamics.
Sure feels good to read this piece! Cheers
Thanks for reading!