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David Roberts's avatar

Noblesse oblige is by its very nature quiet. So, you won't hear about "elites" lifting up other people very often.

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I feel the truth in what you write here so much that it's almost like it's about me (though I know it's not). My education wasn't an elite one, but I did manage to make myself seen and respected and impressed the "right" people enough that I drew the kind of attention that propelled me into nonprofit board member roles, into politics, and into Learning & Development positions for the Department of Energy, Microsoft, Depuy Synthes (Johnson & Johnson), and Harvard Business Publishing.

But it was once I reached that latter platform and was tasked to help a team develop a leadership program on professional networking that I really soured on aiding and abetting the institution. I "saw how the sausage was made" and felt deepening resentment. I grew hateful of everything they stood for and saw them as signifying the source of all my pain and suffering and that of my loved ones, and as an outsized culprit behind most of the socioeconomic ills in the U.S. and beyond.

It was that "beyond" that became my last straw. Feeling like an accomplice to their neoliberal imperialist ambitions was heavily contributing to my increasing mental and physical unwellness. In the end, the day I quit was the day I got threatened for authentically exercising my agency to draw a professional boundary. People who need to maintain a firm grip on an institution's image dislike someone from my class having the audacity to exercise such autonomy.

Yes, social class mobility has waned in America so badly that I left the country forever. I don't want to play the elite's stupid power games anymore. I just want to be left alone to live my life as I like. I brought my youngest kid and his partner with me. There's nothing left for them in there but a short and brutal life. The U.S. as "the land of opportunity" is a dead idea.

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